Thursday, April 15, 2010

Head Case


I know, I need to do the last section of the Atheism essay. But I need to do this first.

I've been going through it the last couple of years. I try not to turn this blog into a whinefest, but there are times when it helps me to get things out. Writing on my blog doesn't feel like talking to myself; it feels as if I'm conversing with a friend. So, buddy, here's what's going on...

My head's been getting worse. By this I refer to my being, well, a crazy person. I'd been on a slow but steady path of improvement for a very long time, but the last two years have seen things degenerate. This last winter and the current spring are giving me extra difficulties.

My insomnia has gotten worse. If I can get five hours of sleep a night, I'm okay. But lately I haven't been able to get that. I'm averaging three or four hours a night. That's still better than my worst, but it isn't good.

I've been spacey and irresponsible in ways that are totally new to me. Missing classes and appointments, forgetting things that I have to do, going to wrong buildings, etc. I mean, I thought I wasn't the kind of person who did those kinds of things, and here I am doing them.

And I've been finding myself just freezing for extended periods of time, sitting down at the computer, doing a quick web surf, and then realizing I've been doing it for hours. Or realizing that I've been walking back and forth between the living room and the kitchen for hours. Pulling out stacks of books and reading all the introductions and afterwards and none of the actual material. That kind of thing. It happens when I think about all the things I could be doing, all the things I should be doing, how lucky I am. How privileged.

I've been troubled by obsessive disquieting thoughts badly enough to lose sleep over them. Here's a sample -- imagine holding a steel tetrahedron between your teeth -- the taste of the metal, the smooth cold feel, the sense that it's harder than your teeth, the feeling of electricity where it touches your fillings. Bite down until your teeth break. Feel the splinters of tooth, taste the blood, and as you lay there in the dark, experience that bite over and over again.

That's a mild one.

There are times when I walk while I'm infuriated, slapping signs and kicking newspaper vending machines and muttering furiously. Every so often I'll get a strange look from someone in public, and I have to wonder if they've seen me during one of those little excursions. A pal of mine recently spotted me on the street while he was driving; he said I looked like someone you'd cross the street to avoid. At first I felt amused and complimented but hey. That's not really wholesome, you know? Behaving abberently in public is just not good.

I've been self-medicating with alcohol, and that isn't good, either. I swear off drinking alone, I stick to it for a while, something comes up that I know booze will help get me through, the booze helps, my prohibition loosens, eventually I get offensively drunk and swear off solitary drinking again. Lather, rinse, repeat. I'm not talking about daily drinking -- I couldn't fucking afford to be a real alcoholic -- but both my parents and both my grandfathers were alcoholics. I can't take drinking for granted, and I don't feel entirely under control of the situation.

No point in going into more detail. It's just not been good. And at the same time it has been good. I've gone through real creative breakthroughs during this time, I've found that there are times and places where I'm valued, where I have something real to contribute. The missus is convinced that it's because of the progress I've made with my art and writing -- that it's fear of success.

I don't think that's all of it, but I'm not saying she's wrong...

Right now I'm at a crucial point in my life. I've proven to myself that I've got what it takes as an artist and a writer -- but that's all I've got going for me. I need to find some way to make a living, and being crazy is not helping me here.

And a big part of what's going on is that I simply don't know how to live life on the most basic level. I actually tried to sign up for a basic life skills class last semester, but found out it was for developmentally disabled people... I shoulda taken it anyway. Let's face it, I'm just Rain Man with a vocabulary. Taxes? Job hunting? Savings? Jesus! I have no idea how people do that stuff. I am but a cork, bobbing in the current...

When I've read up on this stuff, the message I see over and over again is, "Seek professional help." I'm reluctant to do that. My previous experience with counseling and medication was almost entirely negative -- my shrink did turn me on to Robertson Davies, but that was it. The more analysis, the worse I felt, and the anti-depressant (Nortryptiline, if you're curious) did me no good at all. My counselor and consulting psychiatrist were terrified of/for me. If I hadn't been intimidated by the forms I had to fill out, I would have been committed. I still feel guilty about how depressed I made my shrink.

But things have changed since then. I'm nowhere near as bad off as I was at that age, even with my current troubles. And there have been a lot of advances in medication.

So I've decided to bite the bullet and investigate the possibility of getting back into some kind of therapy. I spoke to the missus about this, and she's started nosing around, bless her. She says there are a lot of free options around here. I don't know how I feel about medication -- I've heard some real horror stories about the adjustments people have had to make while figuring out their medicinal regimen, and the idea of suddenly turning into some kind of goddamned pharmaceutical werewolf is both chilling and not entirely impossible. But just having someone to talk to would make a difference.

Hey. It's worth a shot.

7 comments:

Traumador said...

sorry to hear things have degraded so much lately... :(

i think your "boss" is right, and that it is somewhat a fear of success, but more to the point a fear of how to proceed to success.

i'm going through a rough patch (though no where near as bad as yours by the sound of it), and mine is based on the "okay, i can do a lot of stuff, and do it well. how do i do it (to make a living) than?". i'm just trying to find a teaching gig which is hard enough.

i don't exactly know of places that advertise for authors or artists...

good luck sorting it out.

Glendon Mellow said...

Sean, for whatever it's worth (for me, a lot) there's a community of fans+colleagues here online who support you and love your creative outpourings.

If you need to talk with someone to let thoughts out, so be it. No shame in that. Go from there.

Listen to the missus. Listen to those who care about the Renaissance and the Oaf.

Sean Craven said...

Thanks, guys. It's not a good situation, but it's not dire. I have a number of good friends who are dealing with much more serious issues.

Think of it this way -- rather than live like this indefinitely, I'm trying to get a handle on the situation. And the support I've gotten from y'all over the past while has something to do with that.

I think all of us know what it's like to feel out of place in the world -- but that's one of the reasons we aren't alone, huh?

Glendon Mellow said...

Word.

I should have said fans + colleagues + friends.

Lara said...

Hang in there Sean. You're a fantastic writer. Your tendency to live inside your head a bit probably contributes to your awesomeness in the writing department. Not everyone can do what you do. It sucks and isn't fair that you have to be cursed with mental discomfort and feeling 'crazy' because of it.

Anonymous said...

Sean, I could rage for hours on this topic. You would see a side of me you've never imagined. So much of this has to do with the main stream. Antidepressants? What wonderful pills to make us 'stable' while hampering our creative, unique, and wild nature. It's a pissy world and the fight that's in us is there because our spirits rebel and won't conform. I admire your artistic abilities, your intelligence, hell, your brain! Your warmth, humor and honesty has touched me and made me friend. Last words from this simpleton, "Don't let the bastards get you down." Okay so not last words. You want to make some money? Sell some shit. Write more, paint more, and sell it, your work is great. Teach. People can learn from you. People would love to learn from you. People will tell other people to take classes from you. Connect. Do group shows, continue publishing your mags, network with like minded people and get more exposure. You have so much to offer. Okay, I think that's enough for now. Back to the beer.

Deborah/seedbyte

robp said...

# 1 - why does Deborah claim to be "anonymous" then sign her name?

# 2 - and this is more important, but I haven't put much thought into it, just trying to catch up with your blog while folding laundry: Have you considered doing volunteer work with kids or the disabled? You're great with people and I know you have to schedule your social interactions. Helping others might be a boost for your morale, and at the very least you'd be helping others. Maybe you shouldn't work with the mentally ill, or maybe you should, I don't know what works there. I mean, you add to my life, and I'm at least mildly neurotic. Which is to say, I relate to some of your problems if not all. This Maximus IPA's raised to you. Cheers.